The Last Post of 2016, Direction for 2017

 

 

 

 

It is hard to believe that this is the last post of 2016, every year at this time causes me to reflect on the progress that has been made by this blog and the gratitude I have developed because of creating this blog. To have the support that I have built in my life, both in the professional area and in the non-professional groups and personal relationships, makes me awe struck.  I have more than I could ever have imagined. That, I think, is what 365daysofbipolar is about. Sharing the fact that there is hope, that we can come out of the darkness of bipolar, into an incredible life. We can, if we work for it, find joy and inner peace.

That is the proposed goal and direction of this blog for 2017, to focus on what we need to do to feed our mind and spirits to expose the joy and inner peace that resides in all of us. Yes, joy and inner peace is within all of us, it is not something that is found outside of us and brought in. Joy and inner peace is something that resides within us and needs to found, fanned and brought forth to shared with everyone. Our eyes may face outward, but all the real treasures are found within ourselves. Our journey in 2017, will concentrate on that inward focus and on the stated goal of mental wellness, not concentrating in mental illness. What you concentrate on expands and we want to expand our mental wellness to overcome and manage our bipolar disorder.

The other goal for 2017 is to start the 365daysofbipolar YouTube channel, commencing on July 9th, 2017.

I hope everyone had a great Christmas. I want to wish you a Happy New Year and a fantastic 2017.

 

Our battle is with our minds, not with other people, places, situations or other external things.  Remember our battle will always be with our minds and our minds alone.

The great inspirational speaker, Jim Rohn, said:” Work harder on yourself than anything else.”

I say,” Work harder on yourself and everything else falls into place like magic.”

Keep to the path, the hard one. The easy one does not go anywhere.

 

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The Greatest Gift You Can Give Yourself This Christmas

 

 

I want to share with you the greatest gift anyone can give themselves this Christmas. It is a gift that we may have to struggle for, but it is also gift that once found and practiced will radically alter your life in the most positive of ways. It is a gift you can only give yourself and you don’t even have to go shopping to get it. Because all the best gifts are already inside us.

As Earle Nightingale said, many times: “Because they are free we place no value on them.”

Only those that have practiced and mastered this gift know its true value is worth more to them than all the money in the world. This gift opens the door to real living, without this gift you can never truly live.

This gift is something that, once mastered, will remove great weights from our shoulders.

When I tell you of this gift, you will say that it is wrong, it can’t be life changing, but it is. It is a gift that I cherish every year as I review my year to see of I am moving toward my stated goal of being a better version of “me” from year to year.

The greatest gift you can give yourself is the simple act of self-forgiveness. Learning to forgive yourself is the greatest thing you can do for yourself. When I can forgive myself for the errors that I have carried around for decades that I feel make me a bad person, all that weight disappears and we can find that natural joy that resides in all of us.

In 2017 I urge all my readers to practice the art of self-forgiveness.

Someone is going to suggest shouldn’t we forgive others first? My answer to this is, we need to practice these things on ourselves first so we learn what they feel like and make them authentic before we practice them on others.

Have a Merry Christmas

Our battle is with our minds, not with other people, places, situations or other external things.  Remember our battle will always be with our minds and our minds alone.

The great inspirational speaker, Jim Rohn, said:” Work harder on yourself than anything else.”

I say,” Work harder on yourself and everything else falls into place like magic.”

Keep to the path, the hard one. The easy one does not go anywhere.

 

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The Importance OF A Wellness Plan

 

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“When you know yourselves, then you will be known, and you will understand that you are children of the living Father. But if you do not know yourselves, then you live in poverty, and you are the poverty.” Jesus of Nazareth.

For me these two quotes have everything to do with a wellness plan. The steady progression towards the ideal of mental wellness, through self-knowledge.

A wellness plan is simply a written plan that charts our actions (what to do) to remain on the path to mental wellness. When we are confronted with situations that we know will set off our illness our plan gives us a written plan of action. It is important to note here that the plan contains the things we know will set us back. This means a wellness plan is ever evolving as we learn more and more about ourselves and what triggers our bipolar disorder. Our goal is mental wellness and our wellness plan is our road map to keep us out the ditch and progressing towards that worthy ideal. In order to this we need to know ourselves and our reactions to things incredibly well.

I lived in the poverty of BP I and I was that poverty that bipolar disorder creates. With my first taste of stability I vowed I never wanted to go back there, but was constantly drawn back by my triggers and my thinking.  This is when I was introduced to a wellness plan, a plan that was created by, and for, me to help attain my most sought after goal, “Mental Wellness.”

We can read lists of what triggers a bipolar sufferer on the internet and in books, but what triggers us, individually, may not even be on those lists. This list of triggers does not include the specific instructions on how to handle those triggers. There are triggers that we should avoid all together. Yet there are many things that trigger us, we have to do because they are part of life, such as going on a vacation.

Vacations, for me are not the relaxing fun filled times that people imagine. Being a home body at heart, traveling causes stress (trigger 1). I can not sleep in another bed; thus insomnia occurs (trigger 2). I can not handle large crowds or packed parking lots (trigger 3). If flying is part of the vacation, you can forget that, flying causes a psychotic break. (trigger 4).

In that short description there are four triggers listed, only trigger four (flying) has to be avoided out right, there is no dealing with that one. Trigger one, the stress is from going to unknown places.  Once I learned that was the real trigger, fear of the unknown. I make each place that we vacation as known to me as possible before we go. I watch videos, get brochures and spent time on Google Earth. The stress is mostly eliminated and I can really enjoy myself in the familiarity of things I have seen in other forms, but not in real life.

Trigger two, insomnia. There are medications for that and I make sure I have them with me. In two weeks of vacationing last summer I slept every night and enjoyed each day.

Trigger three, crowds and parking. If I tell you my cure for removing the stress of finding parking in busy tourist parking areas, you will laugh. I pray for parking and every time there is a parking spot just sitting there waiting for me. As for the crowds, we go just before, or after, peak season. There are still lots of people, but you can find breathing room.

All these things are written in my wellness plan so that I can review them when the subject of a vacation comes up. There is less chance of not having the tools and medications on hand if you have a written plan. The key to a good wellness plan is self-knowledge, and a never wavering ideal of mental wellness.

I have included what I consider one of the best blogs on wellness plans in my blog of the week section.

Our battle is with our minds, not with other people, places, situations or other external things.  Remember our battle will always be with our minds and our minds alone.

The great inspirational speaker, Jim Rohn, said:” Work harder on yourself than anything else.”

I say,” Work harder on yourself and everything else falls into place like magic.”

Keep to the path, the hard one. The easy one does not go anywhere.

 

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Bipolar Wellness Plan

 

Bipolar As Our Primary Problem

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No matter what people try to tell you, bipolar is your primary problem or you wouldn’t be reading this blog. That is what this weeks blog is about, that bipolar is our primary problem and mental wellness is our primary goal. If we keep those simple facts in front of us it seems to lessen our struggles.

Bipolar Is Our Primary Problem.

Our Goal is Mental Wellness.

When we let secondary issues become the primary problem and deflect us into thinking our primary goal is to fix that secondary issue is when our lives fall off the rails. Once we are on the road to recovery this line of thinking derails us faster than anything. To believe that my alcoholism, or my codependent tendencies, or my sick need for every one to like me, were the things that destroyed my life is pure fantasy.  My primary, and life destroying issue, was my bipolar disorder, everything else was secondary. It was only when I make these and other issues the primary issue and take my eyes off my primary goal that I have a greater chance of relapse or setting off my triggers. Conversely, it is only by total focus on my goal of mental wellness and managing my primary problem, bipolar, that I am able to maintain my recovery and mental wellness.

This problem of primary mental health issue and secondary addictions has been well studied in the past twenty years with several models being put forward. A lot of these studies can be found online by doing a google search for: “primary mental health issue and secondary addictions,” if you wish to read them.

The concurring theme of this research is that the treatment of the mental health issue and the treatment of the addictions and other secondary issues is usually separate. You are treated here for your mental health issue and treated there for your addiction and other secondary issues.  While the medical community struggles with this issue and how to deal with it. I want to tell those that read this blog, it doesn’t matter if, and how and where you are seeking help, you are ultimately responsible for your own mental health. It would be nice to go to one place and get the answers for out issues but the world is not set up that way, yet.

It is up to all of us, individually, to make our own wellness plan and carry out that plan. It up to us all, individually, to put all the tools we are shown in our own individual tool box. It us also our personal responsibility to build our own tool box. Lose the idea that someone else is going to do this for you.

That is why It should not matter if you receive the answer for this issue here and the answer for that issue over there. It is our personal responsibility to put it all together in one place. That place is inside ourselves so we can practice those things we learned to make them our life habits.

Bipolar disorder is our primary problem and mental wellness is our primary goal, but we have picked up these secondary addictions and other issues. These secondary addictions and other issues are mostly in response to our running away from our primary problem when we did not know how to deal with the pain our bipolar was causing in our lives. I am not saying we do not have to learn to deal with these secondary addictions and other issues. What I am saying is that we cannot get distracted into thinking that these secondary addictions and other issues are our primary focus. They are not and never will be. If I only worked on dealing with my alcoholism and neglected to deal with my bipolar, I would not be able to maintain any form of mental wellness. This would increase my chances of relapsing by a huge margin.

The wording concurring addictions and mental health disorders is creeping into this discussion which I fear will muddy the waters even more. We must always keep our primary issue of bipolar foremost in our minds and all other addictions and issues secondary. These secondary addictions and other issues are for the most part a result of our bipolar disorder, not the cause of it. Therefore, they are secondary addictions and issues at best and definitely not concurrent.

As with any thing I can only relay my own experience on any issue and my experience has been that following a model that bipolar is my primary problem and all other addictions and issues are secondary I am able to keep focusing on my goal of mental wellness and making mental wellness manifest in my life.

Our battle is with our minds, not with other people, places, situations or other external things.  Remember our battle will always be with our minds and our minds alone.

The great inspirational speaker, Jim Rohn, said:” Work harder on yourself than anything else.”

I say,” Work harder on yourself and everything else falls into place like magic.”

Keep to the path, the hard one. The easy one does not go anywhere.

 

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