I wrote recently about how I seemed to ease into self-discipline. It seemed like I wasn’t disciplined and then after doing a number of small actions over and over I found that self-discipline seemed to suddenly be a habit I could count on. As I said last week, I have kept up this blog for two years something that is incredible in my mind. This week I want to talk about another aspect of mental wellness that just seemed to appear in my life by doing a number of small actions.
Last week we planned this year’s holidays, both my girlfriend and I have to let our respective employers know our holiday plans by March 24th.
“Whoopti doo, you planned your holidays.” I can here you saying.
For me this was a huge deal, because I was present for the planning and even participated in the planning. I didn’t do the “What ever, wake me up when you decided,” thing I used to do in regards to all aspects of life. I have no intention of just tagging along this year, I intend to be an active participant. In fact, I was active participant in last years’ holidays as well and for first time in my life when I look at the pictures I know I was there. I don’t have that foggy kind of disconnected feeling that accompanied most of my life.
That is my topic this week, how we can learn to not only participate in the reality of life instead of the fantasies in our minds, but develop enthusiasm for the reality of life.
When my illness ran my life I would be driven by ideas, good or bad, when manic or glued to the couch when I crashed. In between those extremes I lived in a fantasy world that bore no resemblance to my day to day existence. In short, to myself and those around me I was never present. As I said earlier, “I don’t have that foggy, kind of disconnected feeling that accompanied most of my life.” That is best how to describe it, a kind of fog that follows you around that stops you from being present. Pushing you back into your mind.
Medication on it’s own removes that fog, or most of it. Medication does not, and can not, give us the mind set or even the willingness to become involved in our lives. Medication does not evict us from the most comfortable place we know, our minds and our thinking.
The next step, “the development of enthusiasm for the reality of life” is entirely up to us. This I have come to realize is the thrust of my life and the thrust of this blog. Life is not perfect and our bipolar is not going away. We can learn to change our thinking so the effects of the negative issues in life and our bipolar responses to those issues do not cripple us as they did in the past. I could bemoan the symptoms of bipolar in this blog and the fact that I fluctuate between depression and mania, rapid cycle once in a while and flat out want to take a holiday from life. I choose not too. I choose to say to myself and you, my readers, “yep, that happens, but we can view these things differently.” I choose, and I want to encourage you to choose, to learn to participate in life, good or bad. The reason is simple; “we get out of life what we put into it.” If I, or you choose, to not participate we live in our minds and really have no life. But it has to be a conscious choice and we have to do the work to make it so. We have to find that enthusiasm within ourselves. No one can give it to us.
Our battle is with our minds, not with other people, places, situations or other external things. Remember our battle will always be with our minds and our minds alone.
The great inspirational speaker, Jim Rohn, said:” Work harder on yourself than anything else.”
I say,” Work harder on yourself and everything else falls into place like magic.”
Keep to the path, the hard one. The easy one does not go anywhere.
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