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Most Sunday mornings I get together with a group of people for breakfast and to share our experience, strength and hope.

A few weeks ago, a person who is a relative newcomer to our group asked me a question. Being a writer and unable to explain fully at the gathering I wrote that person a letter. A letter I want to share with all of you.

The Question:

Last week you asked me how I seemed to always be happy?

The Answer:

The short answer is, I changed “ME” a lot.

The long answer is, I needed to see something that would shock me into changing my thinking and challenge my beliefs. I am a visual learner and I need to see something to understand it. Also, to change my ways I need something that shocks me into realizing I am on the wrong path. The thing that I could both see and shocked me turned out to be a quote, a quote that drew a line from the present to the future. This quote has been attributed to Margret Thatcher, but a further study shows the author is unknown or possibly Loa Tzu of the Toa Te Ching fame.

The Life-Changing Quote Reads:

“Be careful of your thoughts, they become your words.

Be careful of your words, they become your actions.

Be careful of your actions, they become your habits.

Be careful of your habits, they become your character.

Be careful of your character, it becomes your destiny.”

What The Quote Made Me Realize:

The moment I looked at this quote it struck me that,

I continually thought over and over, “life is not worth living.”

 I repeatedly used words that meant or actually said, “life is not worth living.”

My actions pointed out, “life is not worth living.”

My habits reinforced, “life is not worth living.”

My character showed, “life is not worth living.”

This meant that in that moment I had the destiny of an insane person (the hospital stays, lost jobs, lost relationships) and that destiny would continue to its inevitable end.

In that moment I realized deep down I wanted something else, I really wanted “a life worth living” and did not know how to get it. That simple quote showed me it was possible to change my destiny

The Quote Answered The Question Of How To Change My Destiny!

The first line of the quote, “be careful of your thoughts they become your words” tells everything. My thoughts are what always took me down.  Be they manic thoughts or depressed thoughts or in between thoughts. It was my bipolar thinking that was fueling this current destiny. I needed to change my thinking.

I Set About Finding The Thing That Would Change My Thoughts:

It took a while, but I eventually found the one thing that over time would change my thinking, my actions, my habits, and my character, ultimately giving me a different destiny.

Science has confirmed, “If you change your words you can change “you” right down to your genetic level.”

 In their book “Words Can Change Your Brain,” Andrew Newberg, M.D. and Mark Robert Waldman write: “a single word has the power to influence the expression of genes that regulate physical and emotional stress.”

Another great book on this topic is Andrea Gardner’s, “Change Your Words, Change Your World.” Which is basically her story and provides some great tools to help with incorporating positive words into your inner and outer speech.

That one thing I needed to change was my words. By changing my words from negative to positive the science says you begin to change “YOU.”

You begin to see things differently, problems become solvable issues rather than unclimbable mountains.

Positive words do not negate the issues that arise in life. That is not reality. Positive words and the attitude they generate within you allows you to see things as they really are.

The other aspect of implementing this change of words is to place a guard at the gate of your mind. It is one thing to become conscious of what is going in and out of your mind through your words, but it is equally important to become conscious of what is going into your subconscious from other sources. To put it bluntly, if everyone and everything you are listening to, doing, reading and seeing reinforce the negative and false beliefs you hold then you will make little progress.

This is a multi-faceted subject, but if you start with what you have total control over, the words you think, say and write, changing them from negative to positive you will find that things will change.

That is the “how” of changing your destiny and if you begin to practice changing the words you say, you think and you write, you will begin to change and so will your destiny.

As we conclude this week’s blog post always remember our battle with bipolar disorder is with and in our minds. Our battle is with our illness not with other people, places, situations or other external things.  Our goal is to develop the self-discipline to take control of our emotions, our minds and our lives.

The great inspirational speaker, Jim Rohn, said:” Work harder on yourself than anything else.”

I say,” Work hard on yourself and everything else falls into place like magic.”

Keep to the path, the hard one. The easy one does not go anywhere.

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