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Disclaimer: In the name of full transparency, I am not a doctor or therapist, I am a fellow bipolar sufferer sharing my experiences and the knowledge that I have gained in the hope those experiences and knowledge may help you.
Being Bored Is Different Than Feeling Lonely:
The feelings of loneliness and boredom are often confused but are actually two totally different emotions or feelings.
Loneliness defined: To feel lonely one does not have to alone. The feeling of loneliness is when one perceives that they lack social acceptance, or the quality or quantity of their social sphere is lacking. Loneliness is a perception or state of mind.
Boredom defined: Being bored is expressing a lack of interest in one’s current activity or surroundings. Boredom can also be caused by the inability to concentrate on the activity or surroundings.
The False Beliefs That Causes Boredom:
Boredom, like loneliness, is based on perception There is a perception problem when the feeling of boredom enters our lives Mainly our boredom is founded in one of two false perceptions.
The first false perception is best described in this quote.
“Boredom is the conviction that you can’t change – the shriek of unused capacities.” Saul Bellow. We feel that something can’t change, or we are stuck in a hopeless situation.
How Do We Overcome Boredom?
We have defined boredom and learned what false perception causes this feeling of boredom. What do we need to do to actually overcome boredom? Well, that depends, but I have found one constant. To overcome boredom requires conscious effort. Without the willingness to put in the effort to overcome the false perception you are running under; you and your environment will stay the same.
During this time of disrupted routines and forced isolation boredom is a real possibility for many us. For those of us with bipolar disorder, this boredom can lead to deeper issues.
We are bored because we feel ourselves or our environment cannot change, and for the next while it probably won’t, Saul Bellow offered the solution in his quote – Tap into your unused capacities as they are shrieking for use. You can also enlarge your capacities. Examples of these are endless.
Henry David Thoreau gave the best quote on mans capacities. “But man’s capacities have never been measured; nor are we to judge of what he can do by any precedents, so little have been tried.”
This is my list of using my capacities and growing some new ones.
- I am writing more. I love to write and create worlds and stories. So, I am doing more of this.
- I am cooking more and heathier meals. We have to eat, and most restaurants seem to be closed.
- I am researching more topics for this blog.
- I am connecting with people on skype, zoom, text and phone.
- I signed up to Duolingo to learn Spanish and Italian.
- I am taking a free online course to improve this blog.
- I am practicing gratitude by consciously looking for things to be grateful for.
- I set a goal to read one book a week.
- I am reading more blogs written by others.
- I am learning things from YouTube.
I hope this list gives you some ideas you can try to stave off boredom or sparks your own ideas. Remember that if you are feeling bored you are not using your capacities to live a joyous life even in this unprecedented time.
I pray you stay safe and well
As we conclude this week’s blog post always remember our battle with bipolar disorder is with and in our minds. Our battle is with our illness not with other people, places, situations or other external things. Our goal is to develop the self-discipline to take control of our emotions, minds and lives.
The great inspirational speaker, Jim Rohn, said:” Work harder on yourself than anything else.”
I say,” Work hard on yourself and everything else falls into place like magic.”
Keep to the path, the hard one. The easy one does not go anywhere.
I have used this book as a guide to overcoming adversities of other kinds and have found it to be a great reference to return to.
Overcoming Adversities: Going Beyond Frustration, Resentment, Depression, Exhaustion and Boredom…
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BLOG OF THE WEEK:
Many other people blog on bipolar and related subjects. Mental wellness is all about knowledge and learning about ourselves. The more informed we are the easier our struggles may be. Each week I attach a blog written by someone else that I found interesting that may inform you as well. This is another author’s work I am just attaching their blog for you. I hope you enjoy this week’s blog created by Melvin G McInnis MD FRCPsych.