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Disclaimer: In the name of full transparency, I am not a doctor or therapist, I am a fellow bipolar sufferer sharing my experiences and knowledge that I have gained in the hope those experiences and knowledge may help you.


The Essential Element OF Change – Willingness.

“You create willingness.” Meir Ezra.

Last week I posted 10 ways to change your life, this week I write on the essential element to implement change.

Recently I had a conversation with someone I have known for years. I noticed a change in this person and commented on it. They smiled and made the most interesting statement,

“For the first time ever, I am willing to change and do the work required.”

For Many Of Us Change Is Hard.

It could be from limiting beliefs or false expectations, but for some reason change is difficult. For my friend, it turned out to be a combination of both, a false expectation that things would be handed to them or come easily. This created a false belief that life is easy. Blessed with incredibly good looks, above average intelligence, and a winning personality my friend got everything they wanted without effort. At least the superficial things. They never had to struggle and fight for anything.

When confronted with any difficulty, and holding those expectations and beliefs, avoidance had always been the way to go. Unfortunately, real life is not easy and at some point, you have to develop the life skills and character traits to deal with it. That is what happened to my friend. They were confronted with an issue that required them to either learn those skills and develop those traits or lose something especially important to them.  But first, they had to become willing.

What Is Willingness?

According to the Oxford Dictionary – “Willingness is a state of being prepared to do something, a readiness.”

How Much Willingness Do You Need?

This is not a stupid a question as it sounds, because, by the definition cited above, willingness is a state of being. How much willingness do you have to generate to be ready to do something, to ignite that state of being?

Willingness may just come from realizing there is hope in that change that you are confronted with. Hope for that “Ducky” life we all crave. Sometimes hope is all you need to create the willingness to change.

As we conclude this week’s blog post always remember our battle with bipolar disorder is with and in our minds. Our battle is with our illness not with other people, places, situations, or other external things.  Our goal is to develop the self-discipline to take control of our emotions, minds, and lives.

The great inspirational speaker, Jim Rohn, said:” Work harder on yourself than anything else.”

I say,” Work hard on yourself and everything else falls into place like magic.”

Keep to the path, the hard one. The easy one does not go anywhere.

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Many other people blog on bipolar and related subjects. Mental wellness is all about knowledge and learning about ourselves. The more informed we are the easier our struggles may be. Each week I attach a blog written by someone else that I found interesting that may inform you as well.  This is another author’s work I am just attaching their blog for you.  I hope you enjoy this week’s blog created by Bryan Falchuk