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Disclaimer: In the name of full transparency, I am not a doctor or therapist, I am a fellow bipolar sufferer sharing my experiences and knowledge that I have gained in the hope those experiences and knowledge may help you.
The Truth About Bipolar Hypersexuality.
“I felt like an animal, and animals don’t know sin, do they?” Jess C. Scott.
Hypersexuality is the symptom of bipolar mania that gets us into the most trouble. It is also the most misunderstood of the symptoms of mania both by the bipolar sufferer and those closest to them.
The Big Problem.
The reason for the confusion is extremely easy to understand. If you type hypersexuality and forget to add bipolar disorder into any search engine you come up with this result or something similar.
“Sexual addiction or hypersexuality is defined as a dysfunctional preoccupation with sexual fantasy, often in combination with the obsessive pursuit of casual or non-intimate sex; pornography; compulsive masturbation; romantic intensity and objectified partner sex.” Psych Central.
People automatically equate bipolar hypersexuality with sex addiction. Even our professionals are more likely to diagnosis bipolar hypersexuality as sex addiction if they do not have enough information. Many medical sites that offer fantastic bipolar information will go into sex addiction mode when talking about bipolar hypersexuality. This gives a false impression that bipolar hypersexuality is sex addiction.
What Is Bipolar Hypersexuality?
Bipolar hyper-sexuality is not sex addiction. Not even close.
Hypersexuality is listed as one of the diagnostic criteria for bipolar disorder. Bipolar hypersexuality is a symptom of mania that causes an increased libido. Bipolar hypersexuality causes the bipolar sufferer to compromise their values on sex and relationships to meet a need that is completely out proportion with their normal.
Bipolar hypersexuality is an insatiable feeling or urge that the suffer feels must be attended to.
These feelings and urges can lead to a dysfunctional preoccupation with sexual fantasy, Inappropriate sexual advances, excessive masturbation, paying for sexual partners, and other inappropriate sexual actions.
Which are the same feelings and urges displayed by a sex addict. This adds to the confusion.
Having been accused of being a sex addict because of bipolar hypersexuality and sitting in SA meetings I can say that there is a great difference in view point from a sex addict and someone who is just suffering from bipolar hypersexuality.
What To Do About It?
- Be Honest: Be honest with yourself, your partner, and those around you about how you are feeling.
- Do Not Act On This Feeling: It is a feeling or an urge, surprising you will not die if you do not act on this. Acting on your hypersexuality will give you gratification and your brain will see it as a reward. Rewarding hypersexuality only adds fuel to the situation.
- Seek Professional Help: Hypersexuality is listed as one of the diagnostic criteria for bipolar disorder. This is a good way to receive a proper diagnosis if you do not already have one.
- Understand And Limit Your Triggers: Something triggered this manic episode. If you understand what triggers you it is easier to manage bipolar disorder.
Bipolar hypersexuality is a symptom of a much bigger problem, the management, or mismanagement of bipolar disorder as a whole. It is by proper management of bipolar disorder that the symptoms are reduced.
Do you have experience with bipolar hypersexuality? Please share in the comments. I am interested in your experiences.
As we conclude this week’s blog post always remember our battle with bipolar disorder is with and in our minds. Our battle is with our illness not with other people, places, situations, or other external things. Our goal is to develop the self-discipline to take control of our emotions, minds, and lives.
The great inspirational speaker, Jim Rohn, said:” Work harder on yourself than anything else.”
I say,” Work hard on yourself and everything else falls into place like magic.”
Keep to the path, the hard one. The easy one does not go anywhere.
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